The customer, a remodeling contractor describes a breakthrough in my grief with him. It came to me this morning, drink my coffee in the morning. I’m in the middle of the largest reconstruction project in my life! Large parts of life that I built with my wife any longer. I learned to understand what I can keep it as is, I got to go, and I need to renovate. I’m going to break some walls, pull some carpet, and throw some outdated, the furniture no longer needed. But I’ve learned to do, so I do not shoot anything that holds my life together. Then I had my life to redesign to meet new purposes and goals. The most important realization came last, as he said, I know now that God led me into this business two years ago to repair not only for old houses, but to me the tools to make my life anew after the death of my wife . Using the metaphor of the reconstruction, we have begun to make progress in our meetings together.

Advice for older people is to work with grief, behavior and emotions surrounding a loss of work as we mourn, the process of converting to the loss. The therapeutic goal is to identify the man, one loss and re-adjust his life to this loss. My goal is to bereavement support an aging population faced with the challenge for the older people worry (65 +) care, the dynamics of grief and loss in older adults, and intervention strategies for grief counselors focus.

* The challenge of mourning for the elderly *
Although people over age 65 represent only 13% of the population in the United States in 1994, this group has had an estimated total value of nearly 1.7 million deaths, about 73% of the nearly 2, 3 million deaths in the country year.1 these numbers multiplied by the number of surviving through the death of the thesis and the need for bereavement support and counseling is important affected. Overall life expectancy in the United States has an average of 47 years in 1900 to 76 years increased in 1990. At this time we are 7.8 million widows in the age of 65 in the United States and 1.5 million surviving male of the same age group range.2 The implication of these data is that surviving spouses, especially women, is much longer than Singles live requires adjustments in many areas of their lives. A grim statistics, is barely recognized by society, older people to lead the nation in suicides. The national average is 12.0 suicides per 100,000, while there are an estimated 24.0 per 100,000 in the 75-84 year-olds and 27.0 per 100 000 in the group is 85 years plus3 white men have a rate 65 of 32 per 100,000, rising to 67.5 per 100,000 in 85 years … much of this attributed to untreated depression, and institutionalization.

A special feature of the Council of the elderly is that many have been very few deaths on their lives. The young old (6574) and the Middle Ages (7584) begin to feel gradual decline in physical energy and mobility. Very old (85 +) experience frequent drop in mental performance. Many have lost friends and contemporaries have some comfort. The middle and very old rule lost important role in life that have given them a meaning. Add this event to severe pain, such as the death of a spouse or a child, and they can go to the extra trouble. Loneliness, role adjustments, and the fear of going it alone are significant challenges for older people. Older people are undeserving of professional advice. Our delivery systems, focusing on visits rather than office-oriented models of home care, without the difficulties of transport and mobility for older people. There is also a need for a paradigm shift towards a model of curative care prevention of mourning. Grief is like a cold virus seen, if you wait a couple of days, it is more than one infection that must be treated aggressively. Transform due to this short-sighted view, often in difficult or complicated grief
pathological grief.

* Dynamics of grief and loss in the elderly *
Anyone who has loved someone and then suffered a loss knows the high price for love … Grief! Some loss of work was recognized and supported by society, like the death of grandparents, parents, children or close friends. Other losses, forms of disenfranchised grief, were not recognized or supported by the community, but among those, and the period of mourning, that the most important determinants of the fact that grief is normal or abnormal. It will identify four indicators of complicated grief reactions help advisors: Chronic pain has never finished with the grief, pain, inhibited delayed / postponed; overwhelmed by excessive sorrow long after the death of mourning rather than the symptoms masked as related loss.6 by using the metaphor of the reconstruction, some people more than others old_resources rebuild their lives after a loss. Other stories are complicated grief, a sophisticated psycho-social, physical or spiritual, that the reconstruction must have with limitations in mind. Physical limitations, mental, financial and social, especially for older customers, can the setting to prevent the loss. In such cases, the goals are more modest expectations modified.

Intervention strategies for grief counselors * *
Take a good psychosocial and spiritual assessment is of crucial importance in the treatment planning: It identifies high risk factors, in grief and evaluates the quality of old_resources customers to have. Evaluation of the consultant receives a good sense of grief issues facing a client. The treatment plan should be designed to help clients successfully complete the four tasks of mourning: accepting the reality of loss, through the pain of grief, adjusting to the environment, the lack of the deceased, and emotionally moving of the deceased and move life.7 goal, the customer is through the grieving state of mourning is completed to help, a person is able to reconcile his loss without pain. Therapeutic techniques should be designed to process the customer loss and adjusting to a new life effectively and cognitively. Empty chair techniques of Gestalt therapy, group therapy, revision of life, cognitive restructuring and oversight back some of the tools used to aid in the grieving process. Family systems approaches provide us with a grieving family to work.

Spiritual considerations should have a prominent place in bereavement and grief are given. Questions of meaning and purpose is central to death and dying and grief. Many clients have alleged spiritual worlds together with the death of a loved one. They are deep into a god, the bad can happen to good people disappointed. The inclusion of a trained counselor pastoral consultation process that integrates theology and psychology can be useful to the client reframe their faith after a heavy loss. Mobilization of psychosocial and spiritual support for grieving clients is important. Former customers have diverse needs that a wide range of peer support (support groups, bereavement / community care programs) and professional services (social workers, parish nurses, doctors, clergy and financial planners). The consultant should facilitate interventions thesis. Conclusion James tells us that pure and undefiled religion before God and the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their distress and to keep the world unspotted (Jacques 1:27, RSV). For Christians who take their faith seriously, grief counseling is an essential part of our lives and our work. Provides comfort those who mourn! Online Christian Counseling is a good way to get ideas.